Monday, January 24, 2011

Exonerating My Husband

The problem with writing a blog about money is that doing so tends to inadvertently implicate one’s husband.

For the record, I want it to be known that our financial situation should only reflect on Mark positively.  MY dire financial state has nearly taken us both out but it is mine alone in its origin.

To properly orient you to my financial situation, I would have to tell a tale that goes back over 100 years and involves many characters and multiple plot twists. That would be too complicated to write (I’ve tried!) and too exhausting to read (you wouldn’t want to!). I will mercifully spare you.

Suffice it to say, Mark and I agreed to a 50/50 split when we married. I was to pay for my house, cabin, car, and children. He was to pay the household bills. We agreed to contribute equally to the spending money.

Then the bottom fell out of my financial world. My previously secure income completely ceased. As in ZERO! Try losing most or all of your income and then try to hold on to everything you have!

Mark graciously stepped in to try to fill the gap in an impossible situation. He has worked day and night to help me. He has done without in huge ways. We have had to live in different states for most of our marriage. My situation has been a huge burden on him and one that many a lesser man would have walked away from.  If it weren’t for Mark, I would have lost everything.

Mark is the hero in this story. Don’t anyone dare think anything else!

7 comments:

  1. This sounds suspiciously like Jarndyce vs Jarndyce (the complicated, multi-generational probate case at the heart of Dickens' _Bleak House_). But it is good to know that Mark is the hero. I always thought that was a cape sticking out of his shirt.

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  2. PS

    "To properly orient you to my financial situation, I would have to tell a tale that goes back over 100 years and involves many characters and multiple plot twists. That would be too complicated to write (I’ve tried!)"

    You realize, of course, that this would be a wonderful book!

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  3. Ugh! That would be avery dull and depressing book if it were just about money and it would be excruciating to write! But some parts will be told in other tales!

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  4. Its not the money that's interesting. It's the people who crave it, betray and kill for it, and are ultimately ruined by either possessing or not possessing it. As Seneca said, "No man was ever destroyed by adversity who was not first deceived by prosperity." A hundred years of that should land you on the bestseller list for sure.

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  5. Luckily, no one has been willing to kill for it!

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  6. Lucky for you, but bad for the story. When you write the novel, you might want to change that detail. Creative license.

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